Monday

But I Am An Adult!

I ran into an old friend from high school the other day and the encounter reiterated what I already knew deep down: People think there's something wrong with me for not fitting "the mold".

You have no idea how happy that makes me.
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 

63 comments:

theTsaritsa said...

Why would anyone be upset about you not having a boyfriend? Maybe you need to meet more people whose lives are more than just their kids and husbands.

Paige said...

Um holy shit. I'm exactly the same way...annah..i get you.

Amber said...

That was some funny shit girl.

I think I may have peed a little.

Amanda said...

Mold is bad for your health. So are kids. And marriage. And boyfriends, to be honest.

steph gas said...

it's hard sometimes to not fit into that mold that everyone expects you to be in. awesome husband and i have been married for almost six years, and we've been together for over 13. some people seem to think it's a fucking crime that we don't have children. like, why did you get married if you don't want to have kids?

and i'm like, well, we have cats. and we'd like to get another dog one day.

and then i get these blank stares. or the pitiful glances and the heartfelt, you'll have a child someday. like it's the only reason to get married, live, breathe, etc.

we. are. not. having. kids. no matter how many times i say it, people don't believe us. and it's like they PITY us because we're sooo stupid or sooo wrong or whatever for not having kids.

fuck people and fuck their mold! let's rock on with our bad selves, annah.

http://justanotherwatedday.blogspot.com

Kirsten said...

Why was she so angry about your three dogs? I've never seen eyebrows so furled!

Catherine said...

There's nothing wrong with being single!

...I mean...I'm not single, but if I was I would be PROUD!

Anyways, anything under 30 is really too young for kiddos! Gotta live up the single life while you can.

Charles said...

Annah: To be different than those around us is to be more like God herself. I am certain of that. I am also certain that God made that bird shit on your friend for a reason. God has a good sense of humor, and she loves making animals shit on people.

Your buddy is a square. It's best to be radically different.

http://arealgoodblog.blogspot.com

Feelings for Breakfast said...

Haha, I really like how in the middle panels you look like you're just melting away from the heat of her condescension. This is awesome. Do what makes sense for YOUR life, not what someone thinks you should do to meet some one-size-fits-all milestones by some arbitrary deadline.

Simple Dude said...

Sometimes I hate birds... other times they are beautiful, timely creatures.

Bitch had it coming.

SD
http://simpledudecomplexworld.blogspot.com/

Adam said...

This was put together pretty well. I could say more but analyzing humor is the only surefire way to kill it. Love your posts and I wish there were more of them!

J Franklin Evans said...

Got an invite to my class reunion the other day and the cost was $40 "per couple." I emailed the guy putting it together and asked the obvious, stupid question--er, what if I'm *not* a couple? $20? Just doesn't even occur to some people . . .

Dr. Cynicism said...

Sometimes not fitting the mold is a good thing. And a lot of people are allergic to mold anyhow. Great toon!

Bouncin' Barb said...

It's your mold and you stick to it. Nothing I can't stand more are people that judge you for what they think you should be or do. Loved the bird shit btw...you ROCK. P.S. I gained 10 more followers today. So happy.

Novie ♥ said...

Just live your life according to what you believe in. Never mind them. Lol. :)

Ms. C. said...

Jesus, some people really grind my gears. I have kids and a hubby (now)....And ya know, it's probably not for everyone. I like my life. hell, I like YOUR life, too. Live and let live and all that shit. I can tell you this, though...Thank GOD you didn't end up marrying someone that wasn't right for you or when you weren't ready. I lived that life, too, and it blows. Are there times that I want to lock myself in a room with earplugs so I don't hear "Mom? Mom? MOM?!?" You bet your ass. Are there a lot more good days (now) than bad? Yup. Did I totally ignore my 11 year old tonight when she was trying to ask me to help her with her homework? You bet your ass (I was far to enthralled singing Madonna's Live To tell, circa 1988, to hear her it seems). My point is simply this...It's your life and Victoria has a stick up her ass.

Hell Notes for Beauty™ said...

Ughh... I love my solitude! I raised an entire generation of kids while growing up... Totally feel ya they just don't understand.

Julie said...

Yes well try being 26, never married with no kids in a state run by religion...I am surrounded by soccer moms and to be honest it makes me love my life so much more. I hate infants.And pretty much anyone under the age of 17.

lyreb said...

Yeah, fuck 'em. Go forth and unmoldify the world Annah!

vanessa {+greg} said...

haha! aren't other people's expectations ridiculous... why do they have them anyway? jeezus. keep living your life, lady. :]

The Ranter's Box said...

There is nothing wrong with breaking the mold and being your own person. Classic that the bird shit on her head. She definitely had it coming. Tee hee! Who knew that birds could be such great equalizers? Hugs, The Empress

http://rantersbox.blogspot.com

Pragmatic Spector said...

I think people who try too hard to get out of a mold are just as annoying as people who try too hard to fit in one. Both ends of the spectrum are molds in of themselves. You're in the perfect middle Annah, and that's why we love you! you're not totally out of anything and you're just yourself. People who think it's EVERYTHING to have this and that are just people who don't know how to lead their fucking lives. I'll admit I want to have a partner and children someday, but that kind of life isn't for everyone and I acknowledge that. Hopefully your friend's reaction wasn't EXACTLY like how you depicted, but if it is then maybe you should pass this message along to her.

Yvonne said...

Whatever! I hate when I get those same questions! Believe me, it's no easier answering them at age 43! In fact, it's actually much worse! lol Embrace your life Annah and don't worry about what those silly people think or say. All that matters is your opinion.

Annah said...

I just laugh. I think it's hilarious. I'd rather still be single then getting a divorce in five years. Amen!

daniela said...

Amen to your divorce comment above!

And if YOU still run into high school ppl when you live in MIAMI, then i'm doomed. I'll probably be running into exes' parents walking their dog for the rest of my life. FML

ps: Molds, like rules, are only there to be broken...so break away!

pps: that was soooo cheesy, i apologize.

The Ranter said...

Wonderful post! Love it.

Steve G. said...

haha - I love the illustrations, as always.

I do find it odd that you're getting static about not being settled down though. Then again, only one of my friends is married, and only one other is in a pretty serious relationship. I'd say us other five are in our mid-20s and still dating. Most of us are looking for something long-term, which is seemingly harder than you'd think to find.

lunamother said...

That was hilarious. I'm the one who messed up- when I was 35 I married my 3rd husband, who should've been my 1st and only except for the 2 kids I had with #1 who are wonderful adults now.

Neither one of my older kids are married yet at ages 29 and 24) and all my friends are grandmas already.

I just tell those kids- "Wait till you're REALLY REALLY sure because it's a helluvalot harder and MESSIER to get un-married than married".

And if something happens to my wonderful beloved husband of 15 years? I'm never getting married again.

Those gals aren't looking at you with pity- they're jealous as hell that they aren't strong enough to be secure on their own.

Sandra said...

No, it's not that people think there's something wrong with you for not fitting the mold. People who are married with kids are jealous of people who are free!!!

Patricia ~ The Naked Writer said...

I think that people who are trapped in 'the matrix' with the kids and the mortgage and the white picket fence that is getting eaten away by termites...they are threatened by us mold free people cause we remind them of a life they used to live and love
don't subscribe to tightly shut lids...EVER

Julie @ www.downtimeweblog.com said...

Oh yeah? Well, I'm 36 and still not married, no boyfriend and no kids! Hell, I don't even have a job anymore! Winner, winner, chicken dinner. I do have a cat, though. And a condo. How lucky am I???

Bella Eugene said...

lol..
wht the fuck was she so much interested in your life??
i hate such people....

http://irrefutable-existence.blogspot.com/

The Watchman said...

Why is it that if you are not married and have a couple of kids, work as a CPA or lawyer or business exec etc..., have a large home and a fancy car, that people think you are unhappy and unsuccessful? I think that if you are happy...who the hell cares! Me and my lady are just fine with just us and no marriage or kids. The nice house and fancy car will come in time.

JoJo said...

Haha I love your cartoons!

Dancer said...

I agree with the people who say: be your self Annah! It is too easy to slip into marriage too soon and as someone said way harder to get unmarried. My kids aged 19, 21, 22 and 24 get a lot of slack because they haven't staked out their future yet. These things take time though. Sometimes lots of time.

I hated being single when I was in my late teens/early 20's and got engaged to the first guy who would have me at 22. I got my 4 wonderful kids from of that relationship. When I finally got divorced after 13 years I still wasn't able to enjoy being alone. As a single mom I worried way too much that I would never enjoy truly being loved. Eventually I did find another man to whom I am now married. I have experienced being loved, and if I were to be alone again for some reason, I think I would just enjoy being single.
Annah, I'm just saying: you have to do what is right for you, and make the most of whatever situation you find yourself in. So right now that means makeing the most of being single and unemployed! :)

Juniper said...

Steph Gas - it's ok, after you've been married about 15 years people stop asking you ;-)

My brother-in-law (correction, EX B-I-L) asked, when we got engaged, why we were getting married when we didn't want kids? I was totally speechless.

But hey, we're still happily married and have somehow managed without any children. Anyway that's what nephews and nieces are for, aren't they....?

~Juniper~

c.honna said...

OMG !!! So this weekend i went to some family party here with my sister and her hubby and kid and all their crazy ass family with tons of fucking brats running around crying, popping balloons,screaming etc. So it was time to eat and my nephew decided that he wasn't having any of it, As my sister and husband looked miserable and are fighting to see which of the two is gonna feed the kid, I say well ill do it then.
So I picked him up and told him to be quite that It was time to eat he looked at me straight in the eye and screamed as loud as he could as he almost flipped the plate of food over with his foot as he was kicking.

Then some other chick just had a baby and she needed to go do some shit I dunno what and she's like can you feed the baby for me. So I feed the little baby as she clearly almost pooped and peed all over me, and I asked where is your husband oh hes not here he had something to do.

AFTER All this - they smile and ask me so why aren't you married and having kids

I SAID - Did You Freaking People Not Just See what I went through>?

Odie Langley said...

AMEN to your comment Annah. A person should not even consider marriage until they know they are ready. You are awesome just the way you are and no one should judge you. One of my sisters has been married for a long time and never plans to have children. They have a cat and are very happy that way. Good for them too. It is a bright spot in my day when you have a post girl so keep on keeping on.
Odie

Mynx said...

Pfft, you are fabulous Miss Annah. She is probably incredibly envious and when you achieve famosity will spiral into depression at how dull her life is.

Minita said...

Haha, oh Annah, I know how you feel. Only since I had kids before I had a college degree it was more the onther way around. People were giving me weird looks and comments over the fact that after class/work I wasn't rushing out to happy hour with everyone else. Haha people are never happy. So I say, MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY!!!

Jessica said...

I'm 30, single, no kids, never been married. I've noticed that while I'd like a man in my life the people who have it all if you can call it that really hate their kids and partner so I think I'm ok with waiting no need to rush into hell.

A Daft Scots Lass said...

Awesome! I guess no one wants to hear our shite anyway. Just say "I'm fine".

LostLucyHolden said...

I find that people who are living a certain type of life want everyone else to live that kind of life too - like it is some sort of validation. Many couples we know are totally fine - but we do meet a lot who want us to conform to the stereotypes of marriage = kids.

I am married and I have no desire to change who I am or what goals I have just because I am married. When I want to do something if my husband doesn't want to do it (like bungee jumping or travelling to NZ) I go without him. Being with someone should be a partnership not another thing to check off on your "growing up" list.

http://lostlucyholden.blogspot.com/

Angeline said...

It was so great to find your blog because you commented on mine. I'm so coming back!

artist60164 said...

MEN YOU DONT NEED EM.

Toni said...

Story of my life. : )

Ninja Mike said...

Lol, I like the "look a bird" distraction. I use a similar tactic to try and change the subject when I inevitably venture into dangerous territory in a conversation.... Somehow it seems to lighten the mood. I'll have to incorporate your disappearing.

I used to date a 27 yr old College student (I was 17). She ran into tons of annoying, usually women, who did not understand a female who didn't want the nuclear fam. I hate people like that. They are so completely boring. I really hate the women who are majoring in "husband". What the fuck are you doing in college? Let someone else get your financial aid and just become a bar skank. You'll garner more respect from me that way... Sorry, you roused my ninja ire. Fuck her, she's boring-if she has a blog, I bet she has less followers than I do! (I'm sitting proud at 5 right now!).

Ninjas teach you stuff:
WhatWouldNinjaDo

Kendahl, Stepmom Extraordinaire said...

I can't even tell you how much I used to get things like this, because I didn't get married until I was 23 (GASP, right?! I still feel like I was incredibly too young). Now, when I tell people I don't ever want to have kids they shun me. Utah is pretty ridiculous for that. My favorite is the pretend-they're-happy-with-6-kids smile.

Annah said...

Daniela: Bring on the cheese, I am the queen of it.

Olivia: And they still dare ask you WHY you haven't had any kids? Ay mija. Que falta de respeto.

Patricia: Couldn't have said it better. Mold free it's the way to be! <----- CORNY AS HELL.

Crabby Commuter said...

I can't tell you how many people I've "unfriended" from Facebook just because their page turned into a scrapbook for their "blessed" lives. Little mommies swapping recipes for homemade yogurt. Ugh. Ugh. Ugh. I just want to gag. Another reason why I am definitely not attending my ten year HS reunion this year. SO I FEEL YA!

Christy said...

Ay mija!!! F*!@ the mold!! You're doing your thing being happy, which is a lot more than other people can say. Eso es la envidia!!

Janet said...

LMAO, yes there are definitely women like that, but girlfriend not all women with kids are miserable. This one right here is still hot as hell, if I do say so myself, and even though my kiddies are my little angels and I wouldn't trade them for the world, I tell anyone within earshot to wait til they're 30 to start trying for them. Oh my God, did you ever see The Backup Plan with Jennifer Lopez? Her sister has like twenty little rugrats running around the house driving her nuts and there's a part she looks at the kids and then looks at Jennifer and says, "I hate them." LOL...she wasn't kidding, sometimes we do! SO take your time, you'll be glad you did.

Regarding the boyfriend thing, just tell her you're a whore and you prefer to sleep around, and then ask her what her husband is doing this weekend. Not really, but wouldn't that be HILARIOUS?

Bodaciousboomer said...

Kiddo, fret not. I didn't marry until I was 30, have kids til I was 31. Although a few people were wondering if I was going to bat for the other team after dating a platoon of guys. I waited; and I'm still happily (usually) married to same guy, now for 28 looong years.

alexis said...

Hilarious! My Boyfriend and I recently bought a house and now all the questions are Marriage? Kids? I hate it so much! I never realized how intruding those questions were (even if it's just small talk) until they were asked of me. I've never asked anyone those questions ever again.

Laura said...

HAHAHAHAHA! yes! I do have a boyfriend but we've been together for much longer than people think is acceptable without a proposal. Talk about awkward conversations!

Angelinabb said...

I am so tired of the random, un warranted questions that people have NO Business to ask, my husband and I recently decided to maybe attempt to, at one point, in the future, mind you..start a family and people I barely know DM me on facebook and twitter to ask if I am tracking my basal temperature (what is that??) and if we have discussed injections with my doctor...WHAT???? GET YOUR MIND OUT OF MY OVARIES!!!! ohhkay. feel a little better. So basically what I mean is...people suck, Annah..and not in the good way. :)

DarrenK said...

Awesome post as always :0)

I hate it when people do that. A couple years ago, I went travelling with my then girlfriend. I was 25, she was 28, and all the people we told about it came up with the same line, like it was a religion or something.

"Best to do these things while you're young before you settle down and have kids"

Eventually, I got fed up with it. I have since apologised to the recipient aunt, but upon hearing that line I said to her "I find that extremely presumptuous, and frankly quite rude" and walked away. Not sure she has actually forgiven me yet!

Remember, whether you are breaking from the mould, doing your own thing, whatever, we love you. Because of it. In spite of it. We love you, just the way you are.

Molly Malone said...

I get exactly the same thing...

Emily said...

How dare you have the audacity to not be miserable. There must be something wrong with you.

High school = living with this mindset every day. Every. Fucking. Day.

Ali b said...

same here. somebody recently had the cheek to ask me "don't you feel like life is passing you by?".

not to mention the international volunteer work i do with animals. In fact when I told a v good friend recently about the volunteer work in Thailand with elephants next month, they said "But I thought you were going on holiday?" . duh.

Lacie said...

Ha! Ridiculous. I LOVED being single and would have happily stayed that way for the rest of my life had Isaac not been bigger than me and inordinately bossy. BR has 31 flavors for a reason.

Boppie said...

I was engaged at 28, and didn't marry the WRONG guy, and I'm still single at 38. And my married friends with children tell me - the honest ones, anyway - "Kids are so much work, and I'm only still married because I couldn't possibly raise them by myself. If I had it to do over again, I wouldn't." So, I think the ones who are in denial try to guilt the single girls like you into feeling bad about your freedom because they don't understand why they're so unhappy when they have everything they were told would make them complete.
Plus, you are still so young - you wait until you know more about yourself before you pick a boy to keep forever - because you only want to do it once, right?

The Eternally Single Kelly said...

There is nothing worse than telling a long-time friend with a family that you have no kids, are not married, and not dating. They look at you like you have a third eye or herpes..or both! I feel your pain.